Unstick yourself from being stuck and create something that works for you and make that stick!
Does it seem like you are feeling stuck in some area of your life? Are you feeling like you want to get away from that stickiness and are ready and wanting to move forward yet haven’t seemed to budge much? You are not alone. All of us at some point in time have experienced this feeling - congratulations for being human!
I’ve been stuck before and have a tendency to allow myself to stick on occasion. One of the reasons I connect so well with clients, is through experience and practice.
Here what I’ve found common when people want to create change who are wanting to move forward to only find themselves still stuck and asking themselves questions like “why can’t I?” “what’s wrong with me…?” “why am I still experiencing this and why doesn’t it change?”
Thoughts and feelings go hand and hand. Usually, when people are not where they’d like to be is for a few reasons:
A lack of clarity as to what they really want to be experiencing instead.
Spending their time thinking about getting “away” from where they are at and what it is that they are not liking about their situation - this creates lower feelings such as frustration, sadness, anger, guilt that weigh the person down, keeping them stuck
Doing the same routine (habits) - expecting a different result yet, are experiencing more of the same
replacing the usual questions you ask yourself when you're feeling stuck such as: “what’s wrong with me…?” with questions that lead you to possible solutions such as: “what can I do now that can help me move forward? “What is this experience showing me and how can I use it to support my growth?” “how can I do this differently?”
Here are some key things that can potentially help you with getting yourself unstuck-
Identify an alternate option - begin to clearly describe how you want to be (personally/professionally) and the experiences you’d rather be having. Write these down. This is a great start when it comes to shifting and growing lighter feelings that match up with what it is you say you really want. When your thoughts and feelings match up that’s a powerful influence on your experience. The seeds of change begin to grow.
Nurture yourself (tending to those seeds you’ve planted) by being gentle with yourself and taking your self care regiment and kicking it up a notch helps.
Explore - people doing and living the version of your desired self, what do they do that resonates with you that you can do too? you must grow that vision into form and that comes from keeping what has and does still work well for you and integrating new habits and rituals that support your growth.
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